Nice people finish last.

When they are looking for a parking spot, they will deliberately take a spot further in the back, so as not to take any of the good spots. They wouldn’t want to offend another driver, looking for a good spot, would they?

At work, they won’t ask for a promotion. Instead, they just work harder, and hope that their boss notices them. Why ask for a promotion? Why ask to be noticed or recognized? Certainly, someone else could use that money more, right?

At home they’re even worse. Cook. Clean. Do dishes. Take out trash. Give everyone nice gifts. Work hard. Make sure spouse is happy. Make sure kids are happy. Make sure Grandma is happy. Make sure everyone else is happy…except for yourself.

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If you’re a ‘nice person’, or if you’re someone who only thinks about everyone else, I have a message for you. Try being selfish for once.

Yes, I know, it’s hard to do. Everyone told you that you should always be nice to everyone, do what you’re told, follow the rules, etc, etc. Maybe your church told you this. Or maybe it was your parents, or you spouse. Perhaps your company, or your boss.

Regardless of who told you this, you have been lied to. Someone has lied to you. And they’re probably screwing you in the process as well. Especially if that person is your spouse.

Don’t let this happen to you (unless you enjoy it ). Think about it this way. You like making other people happy, right? You like being nice to people.

Well, aren’t you a person also? Why don’t you try being nice to yourself? Why don’t you try making yourself happy? Factor yourself into the equation of happiness, and see what happens. You spend all of you’re time making other people happy, don’t you deserve to be happy as well?

Think about it. Try it out. Don’t be afraid, just try it and see for yourself. Try asking for that promotion and seeing what happens. Maybe you’re boss will recognize that you do good work, and pay you accordingly.

Try asking your spouse for some help around the house. This way, you’re not completely exhausted all the time, and they get some much needed exercise. It’s a win win situation (unless you’re spouse happens to be a very fit professional athlete).

Of course, there is a good way to do this, and there is a bad way to do this. It’s all about…

Finding the balance

If you’re too selfish, you’ll wind up making everyone else miserable. And in the process, you’ll probably become miserable yourself. On the flip side, if you’re too selfless, you may make everyone else happy. But in the process, you will probably become miserable yourself. So you have to find that balance, between thinking of other people and thinking of yourself, so that everyone is equally happy.

The balance is different for different people. If you’re healthy wealthy and wise because of the time you go to bed at night and the time you wake up in the morning, you may be able to spend a lot of time helping other people while still being happy yourself.

On the flip side of course if you’re unhealthy poor and stupid, you may want to consider improving your own situation before you go out and try to play superman.

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